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HOCD? Please help 10 points x?

I'm a 14 year old girl, and only ever had crushes and fallen for guys. Never on a girl. It all started when i was masturbating (It's a bit odd for a 14 yr old, i know) so when i was a few years younger i used to also masturbate to pictures of nude women as i imagined myself being the woman in the picture, and that got me off. Anyway, so that was when the thought came to my head, "i must be lesbian" ever since then i've had this constant worry that i'm bi/les. I would keep checking what aroused me and what didn't, i actually get turned on from any sort of sexual activity (gay,les,straight) especially when horny, so that's when i figured that i'm not a lesbian, i just get turned on from anything, then later found out that it's something to do with the brain; just releasing chemicals. Then i found the worry went away, thinking "right. i'm straight" then whilst i wasn't doing anything the worry would creep back, then i'd have to 'prove' i'm straight for it to go away. This repeats, although it used to get worse every time it came back round. I've had a few panic attacks, from it as well. I'd spend ages researching if i was bi or straight. (ruled out les) then i came across HOCD. It fitted me perfectly, not so much the unwanted sexual fantasies; as i only fantasise about guys. but the never ending obsessive worry. it's like a thing in my head nagging 'your bi' Now, i still have it but now i feel like i do things 'in a gay way' so i do it again or if i see a girl i think 'am i attracted to her?' and other things. It has me convinced i like girls, but i don't, like i'd feel nervous, but that isn't me. What i find is that it only comes when i'm not busy/doing anything. Most importantly worrying about something, if i worry about one thing it moves across. So if i worry about school, then the whole bi thing is forgotten and i go back to my usual self (straight, with no doubt) then the worry returns and i have to prove why i'm straight. I see it as i'm a straight girl who likes any sort of porn. Also i get turned on (skin kinda tingling) when someone touches me, pretty much by anyone. I have one friend called Chloe (i think she's bi/les) if i think that and she touches me or something like on the arm (admittedly she does get too close sometimes) then my skin kinda 'tingles' but i don't like her. And if i think she's straight then it has no affect. But i also got that from a guy touching my back (Is it just sensitive to touch?) I have no attraction towards girls, and only ever seen males as partners. Before my HOCD started i could easily tell you that i would never marry a girl, etc. Now the HOCD has me doubting that, i don't know really. The one thing i can say 100% is i only like guys. It's weird there are times when my brain is all clear about it all (i'm straight,don't worry etc) then it goes back to doubting it all. It only seems to come when my mind is not thinking about something else. I just don't know whether i'm straight with HOCD, to me it seems like it fits,or bi and in denial. I think i know deep inside i'm straight, because there are times when i feel like it's clear and i say to myself "i'm a lesbian" or "i'm bi" and something in my head says "no" (if that makes sense) lol or i say "So the reasons why i'm les/bi are...." and i try to think of them but i can't. What i don't understand is that if i get that 'initial attraction' with guys and only guys, not finding a girl hot and thinking 'i would so do her' i'm only serious if i say that about a guy i like or something..get what i mean? Help me? Please x Do i only get slight 'tingles' from Chloe (it's not always) because i can masturbate to the thought of lesbians/ yet i don't see myself doing it in real life, although i can with a guy. I can't really see myself with a girl.

Now that President Obama has come out of the closet in his support for gay marriage?

Do you think he will encourage his daughters to be lesbians?

I'm so lonely. I'm going to end it soon if it doesn't get better. Help.?

I'm so lonely. I'm going to end it soon if it doesn't get better. Help.? Hi. I'm 17 and I am dying from loneliness. I can literally feel my body and mind wasting away. I don't eat, I don't sleep, I don't enjoy life. Ever since I was 7 or 8 I've felt this crushing feeling of depression. I haven't made friends at any point of my life. I'm part of nobodies world. Lately, it's gotten worse, over the last year I have stopped sleeping all together and my mind seems to be erroding more every day. I'm tired all the time, and I can't enjoy things. I go to college at the moment and I have no friends. I'm going on a school trip later this year and I wanted to make friends with the people. I tried talking to one of the people going to the trip, and I did have a converstaion or two with her. I thought she might become my friend, but then I found out that she hangs around with the other people from the trip at lunch instead of me. She doen't want me, nobody does. Everyone has made such good friends with eachother on the trip, except me. One of the girls going is a lesbian, and she's invited another girl on the trip to go to a Gay Pride parade today on Facebook and they are good friends. She put on Facebook how she is looking foward to seeing her today, and calls her 'gorgeous'. Thats what I want, I want friends and I want somebody to want me to be around, and voluntarily talk to me, even if it is out of pity. I would take any kind of relationship at the moment; one out of pity, one where they are taking advantage of me; anything as long as somebody wants me. I feel loneliness like a poison in my heart, my heart hurts all the time and my eyes are always pounding like I'm about to cry. I feel as though my soul is being corroded, and everything about me is being slowly leeched away. I'm going to kill myself if after the school trip nobody has spoken to me (almost definately) or made friends with me. I don't know why I posted this, it's not a question, but I've got nobody else to tell my feelings to. BTW- i'm on anti-depressants. They don't work.

Confused straight guy with forbidden crush!?

Kinda long, but to start of with; i'm an 18 year old guy at college who has always been attracted to girls and im not gonna lie alot of girls do check me out and call me 'hot, sexy and fit' but i don't see it hah...anyway.... I have a girlfriend who i have been with for about 3 years and we're almost inseperable, but the problem is for the past year i've had a progressive attraction- to another boy!! Ok this guy is in my most of my classes in college we met last year then have become good friend. At first i just thought of him as a nice and really friendly guy, also i was not at all attracted to him what so every.Aftera few months of getting to know each other i noticed i was getting really close to him and then it hit me!!.....I realisedhe was a very beautiful person inside andout,then the crush phase has progressed from their and getting worse- i can't stop thinking about him. Is it normal for a straight guy to be obssesed with another guy? i only find him attractive and no other guys. Here's some info about him; he's 17,and a muslim of pakistani heritage.... andi know what your thinking he must be homophobic but thats not the case he knows some gays/lesbians and he treats them the same as everyone else- with respect and friendliness. I don't know how but i find all aspects about him appealing; he's slim, meduim height, an amazing warm complexion and facial structure, shiny dark brown hair, soft red lips with the most gorgeous eyes, you know the kind arab/ indian women have....umm cat-like? he's just soo unique and exotic with a nice @ss -its like a girls fantasy!! Some girls do find him hot but don'ttellhim becuase he's a muslim andassume he can't date. I've just wanted to spend all my time with him but he is also very independant and focused in college to get aheadinlife, so i don't want to make this into a big issue. Its got so bad that anything small he does seems to affect me, e.g. In class we were telling jokes and his adorable laughs caused me butterflies. Also i'm not a person who enjoys hugs,but he's very approachable and does give hugs occasionally, so once when we were messing about he randomly hugged me and it felt so good i didnt want him to let go. And now for some reason he's deleted his facebook account and i cant keep up with him or look through his pics... yea i know its creepy lmao.I have'nt told anyone about this not even my girlfriend and in a couple of months time he's going to uni, so what am i gonna do? Am i gay, bi or still straight? Should i tell him?

Is my best friend lesbian? ADVICE NEEDED!!?

I really need your opinions, what do you think? Please read this, sorry if it's too long. :D Thanks guys! My best friend Sophie and I have known each other forever. I have a suspicion that she is lesbian, and I want your opinions too. About three years ago, we were both 12 years old. At the time I didn't know what gay or lesbian was. As we got a little bit older we started playing dirty truth or dare. Again, I didn't realize what I was doing. SHE initiated these games, not me. Basically, she would feel me up and massage me and shit like that. Then, she wanted me to do it to her, so I did, but uncomfortably. As we got older I realized that what we were doing was lesbian, and I didn't want to be lesbian. I told her that we should stop because it was making me uncomfortable. Even though we stopped playing our games at sleepovers, my friend still kept giving me a ton of attention. She relentlessly hugged me, held me, and cuddled with me at sleepovers and tells me she loves me. She does not act like this towards anyone else! It's very strange. BUT..here's a twist...she now is dating a guy and they're in love. They've been dating for a year now, and it's clear that she loves him. I'm just confused.. I was sure that she was lesbian or something. Final question: Is it normal to play games and stuff with the same sex without realizing it? Thanks! 10 points to best answer

Got a naomi and emily situation on my hands?

skins fans will know that emilys pretty sure about her sexuality and likes naomi, but naomi claims she's not gay, although she secretly likes emily too. anyway, lets say im emily and the girl im gonna tell you about is naomi. we met at a party at the beginning of the year and after flirting a bit, she kissed me, which lead to us making out, alot. since that night weve become pretty close friends, which also involves making out most of the times we drink together. when were sober she says im attractive, amazing and that she loves me, she has a habit of ending up in my clothes and staring at me, sometimes at my lips but generally into my eyes. i, similarly to emily, really like her, and kinda think that if im persistent enough she will realise she feels the same way. she, similarly to naomi, will make out with me and stuff but then get scared and leave afterwards. what should i do? does it sound like she could be bisexual or lesbian and in denial? btw this isnt like some teenage crush, were in our early twenties. @kat on skins emily got her feelings hurt a bit whilst naomi tried to convince herself she wasnt gay, but she finally gave in and admitted that she had feelings for emily. i dont want to like take advantage of her or anything, id like for more to happen when were both ready and keen.

Am I gay or just "bicurious" ?

I'm female and engaged to a man who I love so much! However, I never check out any men, ever, I only perve on girls, they are so much more attractive to me than men. I think about sleeping with them etc etc but never have (only kissed them) even watching porn, I will only watch lesbians. I never double look a guy ever. Guys don't turn me on at all except for my fiance, I love him especially for who he is, gender aside. Even after stating all above, when I sleep with my fiance, I am extremely turned on and he completely does it for me. Does this make me gay, bi or just "bicurious"? My fiancé knows how I feel about all this too. He is open to a threesome and I'm also wondering if I should pursue this so I can get the answer on my sexual orientation?

Should I come out of the closet when I live by myself?

I'm only 15 now but I was wondering if I should come out when I live by myself or just whenever it feels like the time is right. My family is moderately homophobic but I think (well I hope anyway...) that they love me enough to be able to look past that and accept me for who I am, as I have learned to in my 15 years of living with myself. It took me a while to accept myself but now I only feel bad about it when my mom makes fun of the LGBTQ community and calls us "disgusting". I don't really have anyone else I can come out to because I've been home schooled since 2nd grade so I don't really have any close friends and I can't tell my sister because she's only 13 and would probably tell our mom. I do have a (not-very-close) friend whom I think could also possibly be lesbian or maybe bisexual and I sort of have a crush on her... Should I tell her that I'm gay or should I just not tell anyone or what? I know that she at least supports the LGBTQ community because someone else brought that up and she said she supports them... So at least I know she'll accept me, it's just that I don't feel that we've really reached that point of trust yet. (it would be nice if you could add something about how to tell if someone's a lesbian because I think she might be and a lot of other people think she is too but it could just be that she's really tomboyish) I know my mom is sort of questioning my sexuality because a few months ago she asked me if I was gay. I said no. She also glances at me most of the time when she makes fun of gay people but that could just be me being paranoid. What is the best way to come out to someone? Should it be in a quiet place, a loud place, home, on a walk, over the phone, in the car, in public, in private, with other family present, etc? Should I choose a time when she says something homophobic, such as "gay people are so disgusting"? Do you just say "mom, I'm gay" or what? Should I sort of hint about it and hope she catches on? How do you know when it's the right time to tell someone? Is there a right time? P.S. I have a dad too but I don't care for him much and I'm hoping he'll never have to know about it. Do I need to tell him too? Sorry this is so long... I basically meant to ask: 1. When is a good time to come out? 2. How can you tell if a girl is a lesbian or a tomboy? I'm home schooled because I've always been really shy and people were always cheating off of my papers, being annoying, making fun of me, etc. It just got really annoying after a while and I decided that I didn't have any friends there anyway so why stay? I liked being home schooled the first few years but now it's getting kind of lonely so I'm going back to school after the summer (scared and excited at the same time!). That's kind of irrelevant but yeah... Oh and yeah what I meant was should I wait until I live by myself to come out or should I come out now? I'm pretty sure my family wouldn't kick me out or anything but as I said, I'm really shy and I just don't think I could do it when I have to look at them every day and wonder what they're thinking.

Is it true that what ever type of porn turns you on most is your sexuality?

if you like gay porn the most are you gay ? or if you like lesbian porn more your straight?

Was my friend trying to test if im a lesbian?

okay my friend asked me "do you think im pretty?" she was i thought to myself and i thought she was trying to test if i was lesbian. so i said "no im not gay" and she got upset and and said i was mean why did she do this?